Why is loving yourself so hard to do? Yet we give love to others all the time and sometimes expect nothing in return.
I have been guilty many times of giving attention and love to other things in my life and then neglect myself. I always make sure everyone else is covered and taken care of and then give myself the minimal amount of care. Why do I do that?
We all heard the saying we need to love ourselves first before we can learn to love others. And in a way its true, if we can't take care of ourselves how can we go around taking care of other people? If we don't take care of ourselves and our health, we won't be around long enough to love others.
So if you're guilty of neglecting yourself, keep reading. There are some simple ways to start taking care of your well-being.
Start saying "No" and take back your time
I admit, I'm a yes person. I constantly say yes to people to make them happy even though I dread what they're asking of me. And I'll have to say I'm still learning how to say no and keeping in mind that I won't lose friends because of it.
If you're someone like me who likes making people happy and would do anything to please them, you have to stop! I'm not saying you have to start saying No to everything but maybe take a few steps back. If it doesn't make you happy, you don't have to do it. It's as simple as that. If I rather stay home than hang out with my friends, I'll say so. Sometimes you have to start putting your own happiness in front of others. If you want the weekend to yourself to relax but your family wants to go on a trip, its okay to say no. Especially when whatever it is does not excite you, and you know you'll be miserable doing it. Why put yourself through that misery? You deserve to be happy and have your own time to do whatever you want to do. Don't get stuck in the Yes cycle, learn to say no and take back your happiness.
Start rewarding yourself with little things
I always take a day off for myself and for myself only. I don't mean calling in sick for work or not finishing tasks that need to get done. I mean taking a few minutes during the day to just focus on yourself. This could be done in the morning, take a nice hot shower and let all the stress from the previous day wash away. Or take a few minutes to enjoy your breakfast and really savour the most important meal of the day.
Whatever it is that makes you happy, start doing it more often. Take a an hour to enjoy your favorite show, eat that delicious ice cream in the fridge, make yourself a warm bath. If you reward yourself with these little things each week, you'll start to find true peace. Not only does it relax you but you're also to take a break from your stress. It'll make you happier and more positive after this little reward times and it's also something you can look forward to each day.
Start thinking positively
We all get caught up in negative thoughts about ourselves. And we always have self-doubt. Stop doing this! Start thinking positively, and even start complimenting yourself. When you look in the mirror, don't point out your flaws or imperfections. Start doing the exact opposite, give yourself a pep talk. "Look at that beautifully, radiate girl in the mirror. She can do everything and anything like a boss."
When we start changing our negative thoughts into positive ones, we start picking up on positive things too. We no longer focus on the bad and start looking for the good. We have to stop being so hard on ourselves and give ourselves the chance to find the little things we adore about who we are.
A tip to do this is to post positive affirmations on your mirror. Whenever you see yourself, take a moment to read the affirmation out loud.
The journey to loving yourself has just begun! Remember to take it slow, savour each moment, and always think positive. Give yourself the love you know you deserve and don't settle for anything less! Let me know how you plan on loving yourself in the comments below!